Are You Allergic To The Truth?—Part 1

by Doc Orman, M.D.

Allergic To Truth Part 1

This week, I’m going to take a big risk.  In all three of my new blog posts, I’m going to talk about a subject that is not very popular.  Yet I believe it needs to be discussed.

Last week, I talked about important questions related to stress that most people are not asking today.  There are many other important questions about life, however, that are also not being asked.  One of these questions is this:

  • Are you allergic to the truth?

Few People Are Comfortable Talking About Truth

I say the three commentaries I’ll be publishing this week are risky because most people are not very comfortable talking about truth.  Some people even believe there are never any “truths” which are true for all human beings, so it’s either naïve or arrogant for anyone to think they are qualified to discuss this topic.

I take a very different viewpoint on this.  I believe it is humanly possible to make statements and point out things that are more true and more useful than others.  While I fully acknowledge that it is probably impossible for any of us to grasp fundamental truths about anything, we can certainly empower ourselves and empower others by espousing certain “truths” or principles about life that seem to be firmly grounded in reality.

In fact, I have spent the past 30 years of my life accumulating many “basic truths” that—whether they are absolutely true or not—have helped me greatly to either solve persistent problems I was facing or to be much more successful at navigating my way through life and all its complexities.

Are You Allergic To “Truths” That Come Your Way?

During the past 30 years, I’ve also enjoyed sharing many of the “truths” I’ve acquired— and that have helped me greatly— with other people.  I’ve done this through seminars and workshops, one-on-one coaching sessions, and numerous books and other publications I have authored.

And one of the ways I’ve been able to verify that I have indeed shared something true and useful is there will always be a small percentage of people who become absolutely apoplectic when they hear it.  I call this being “allergic to the truth” and I firmly believe that if you are not getting some of these very strong negative reactions to the messages you are regularly putting out, you’re probably not empowering anyone.

Now, in order for this to be a reliable sign that you are communicating important truths, you’ve got to be getting many more positive, grateful responses than you are negative ones.   And indeed, this has been my experience…for the most part. 

But it always amazes me that there will invariably be some individuals who hate and reject some of the truest and most helpful words of wisdom that ever come their way.  It is very much like a physical allergic reaction—sudden, dramatic, and sometimes even violent—even though it is purely an oppositional psychological response.

Why This Topic Now?

I decided to speak about this topic now, because a particular occurrence triggered me to share my thoughts with you.  As you may know, I recently published several new Kindle books offering powerful solutions for a number of common stressful problems.  For the most part, all of these books have been very well received, and I’ve gotten many positive comments (and reviews on Amazon) from folks who have read them.

There have also been a few negative or “luke-warm” responses, which every author gets.   But there was one review posted recently where the reader (reviewer) had a classic negative reaction to my advice that I’d characterize as being consistent with having an “allergy to the truth.”  In fact, the comments this reader left on Amazon were so illustrative of this type of psychological reaction that I just had to write about this negative review because it was so classic.

In my next post on Wednesday, I’ll share this review with you and will explain why I found it so interesting.  I won’t tell you which book it was posted on now, but if you want to have some fun and try to figure it out ahead of time, just click on the link at the end of this post and you’ll be able to explore all my Kindle books and all the reviews that have been contributed on Amazon.

Until the next post in this three-part series, I simply ask you to consider if you might ever have had an immediate “allergic reaction” to any powerful truths that may have come your way.  It’s an important question for all of us to consider, which is why I chose to highlight it this week and put it out there, knowing full well that some people will probably have an “allergic reaction” to things I’ve just said in this post as well.

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Alex Musulin July 14, 2013 at 12:59 PM

Ah, the “truth”. It certainly does unnerve a small amount of people. Excellent article Dr. Orman. I have experienced the same sort of reactions from a very small number of people when I tell them the truth about a topic. It is a baffling response but I accept it as being a part of life that we must deal with. Your article hits home on many fronts. Some people, “can’t handle the truth”. Even so, in this age of all this positive reinforcement, it pays to tell the truth regardless of the reaction expected, positive or negative. This is a sense of value, a sense of being. This defines a person in my view.

We live in an age of false truths and blatant lies. I wish I could meet more people who believe that their worth is their word and practice this methodology. Sadly, many people do not value such measures of worth and live life twisting and conniving their way through it…how sad. As you mention in your article, some people react very negatively to being told the truth about something. Dealing with truth, you never have to worry about what comes out. When someone lies or misleads, they always need to keep track of what was done and what was said to keep things in order. They need to construct the past constantly trying to cover their tracks. When you tell the truth, it’s easy and you don’t have to remember anything about what was said or done. It’s as clear as the blue sky. Truth is easy. Lies are much more difficult.

Let the truth be said and even though sometimes we experience negative reactions from a small group of people in reaction to truth, this confirms that we are doing the right thing. Past experience is certainly a very good teacher.

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Doc Orman, M.D. July 14, 2013 at 6:28 PM

Alex: Thanks for your comments. Very well said.

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