Free Divorce For Valentine’s Day (Part 1)

by Doc Orman, M.D.

Valentine Divorce Part 1Valentine’s Day, which we just celebrated last week, is a time to honor your relationships with the most important people in your life.

It’s not so much about all the cards, the chocolates, or even the roses.

Valentine’s Day is all about saying “I love you” or maybe just “I appreciate you.”

Giving The Gift Of A Free Divorce

That’s why I found it interesting to learn that a Southfield, Michigan attorney, Walter H. Bentley III, ran a contest this year to award a completely free divorce (all fees, expenses, hearing, filings, etc.) to the spouse who submitted the best break up story.

According to the contest rules listed on his website and Facebook page:

“The winner will be chosen based on the most compelling and convincing story as to why they should be the winner. The divorce is limited to an uncontested divorce with no or minimum child custody issues. Limited to Michigan residents only. Deadline for submission is 11:59 p.m. EST, February 12, 2013.”

Bentley expected about 50 troubled spouses to respond.  He was shocked when the final count exceeded 500 entries

According to a recent survey from Bing and Impulse Research Corp., one in ten couples ends their relationship on Valentine’s Day—arguably the most romantic day of the year.

Why Do Relationships Fail?

This interesting little story brings into focus one of the key sources of stress in our lives—the slow deterioration and eventual failure of key relationships that once brought us much joy and happiness.

It is no secret that more than half of couples who decide to get married end up separated or divorced.  It is not well-known, however, as to why this frequently happens…even on Valentine’s Day.

I have written about the subjects of relationship mastery and relationship stress extensively during the past 30 years.  I have also counseled many individuals and couples to better understand the root causes of their relationship conflicts.

As a result of this experience, as well as my own personal struggles with relationship issues during my lifetime, I have concluded that most relationships fail for three primary reasons:

  1. We mistakenly believe that our relationships are destined to succeed if we have a good match and both people’s feelings are strong at the outset.
  2. We fail to understand exactly how each of us is “programed” to destroy our relationships, no matter how much we value them.
  3. Despite what we say, think, feel, or believe…we are often more interested in being right than we are in being happy ourselves, or than we are in contributing to our partner’s happiness.

In each of my three blog posts this week, I will explore these root causes in more detail.

NEWS FLASH: Our Relationships Are Destined To FAIL!

One of the biggest myths we suffer from in our society today is the myth that our relationships…if well-chosen and entered into properly…are therefore destined to succeed all by themselves.

Nothing could be further from the truth, as our substantial divorce rate indicates.

When two human beings decide to embark on a long-term union with each other, whether it’s marriage, friendship, or even a joint business venture, the odds are extremely high that even if the relationship starts off well, and both parties are very happy, the relationship will eventually become strained and in many cases will end entirely.

The problem is that we don’t see it this way.  We continue to believe, despite mountains of evidence to the contrary, that all we have to do is pick the right partner and have the right mutually positive feelings, hopes and dreams at the outset…and all will work out just fine over time.

As most people eventually discover, however, human relationships rarely succeed on their own.  They require certain skills that many of us are not clearly focused on.  They also require honesty, integrity, compromise and the ability to make a long-term commitment…and stick to it…despite all the many temptations that will arise to make you question your original decision.

Left to run their own course, most human relationships will eventually fail. In my next post on this topic, I will show you how the second root cause listed above makes this very likely.

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