Stress Relief Tip: Telling The Truth (Part 1)

by Doc Orman, M.D.

Stress And Telling The Truth Part 1This week, I want to discuss a stress topic that is very important, but also very treacherous to navigate.  The reason it’s treacherous is because the topic is “telling the truth” and…well…not everyone is willing to engage with this.

But if you’re serious about wanting to learn how to deal with stress effectively in your life, sooner or later, you’re going to have to confront this topic.  And you can’t get away with doing this superficially.  You’ve got to venture deep into it.  There are many fantastic rewards to be gained, but clearly this is not everyone’s cup of tea.

The topic of telling the truth encompasses many, many dimensions, so I’ll only be addressing just a few of these in the three short blog posts I’ll be devoting to this subject.  But if you recall from my previous post on Politics and Stress, I strongly believe that the amount of stress we each end up with in life has everything to do with our ability (or lack thereof) to honestly and dispassionately tell the truth, as best we can.

The Lost Art Of Telling The Truth

For the first installment in this series, I want to focus on how telling the truth is becoming less and less valued in our society today.  This appears to be due, at least in part, to an organized campaign to dismantle “old school” societal values and replace them with more modern, multicultural, “anything goes” standards.

A central component of this campaign strategy has been to convince as many people as possible that there is no such thing as the truth about anything, and therefore each person is entitled to their own personal view of the truth.  Thus, the idea than any one person could possess a higher level of truth than any other is to be discredited.  Even better, it’s important to convince the masses that anyone who favors this idea must be an arrogant, misguided, caveman-like, uneducated, insensitive, bigoted fool.

There Is No Ultimate Truth (This Is True!)

Before we go any further, I’d like to establish one key point of agreement. You see, as human beings, it is biologically impossible for us to ever know the absolute truth…about anything!  As much as we desire to know about certain aspects of life with absolute certainty, we can never really do so.  Philosophers have been pointing this out for centuries. And more recently even hard-core scientists, such as physicists, biologists, and many others have been echoing this very same sentiment (look up the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle, 1927, if you don’t already know about this and what is says about our inability to ever acquire ultimate scientific truths).

So let’s all agree, right from the start, that we can’t ever know the “real truth”…about anything…for certain.  We can’t even know, for sure, if we are actually alive (everything you experience could, theoretically, be one giant hallucination). All we can do, therefore, is have ideas about “truth” with no way to determine if any of those ideas are 100% true or not.

Some “Truths” Are Better Than Others

Having established that all we can do, as human beings, is have ideas about the truth, I think it’s quite obvious that some views of truth are better (i.e. more or less useful) than others.  For example, if you believe you can leap off a tall building, flap your arms as powerfully as you can, and this will enable you to fly, you’ll probably end up with a very bad outcome.  On the other hand, if you believe it’s a good habit to look both ways before you cross a busy street, you should rarely get hit by a moving vehicle.  Thus, the way we conceptualize what we believe to be “true” is going to have very real consequences in our lives. 

With this in mind, I do think you can argue that some people have better views of “the truth” about certain aspects of life than others.  In other words, there are views of “truth” that can enable you to produce better and more numerous positive outcomes in your life.  In this sense, I believe other people can tell you certain “truths” about yourself, or about life, that are better, or more grounded (i.e., closer to whatever ultimate truth really is) than ones you may already have.

The Quality Of Your “Truths” Impacts Your Stress

Each of us can become more skilled at telling better “truths” about ourselves or about whatever might be going on in our lives at any point in time.  For example, if you’ve been trying to accomplish something very challenging and have failed after multiple, well-intended attempts, is it true that you are a failure?  Well, you are certainly free to adopt this “truth” perspective…if you choose…but others might tell you that this is really a lie.  Other people might tell you that the “real truth” is only that you haven’t achieved your outcome…yet.  It’s entirely possible you could find ways to succeed in the future, so calling yourself a “failure” now is not really consistent with the truth about you…or the truth about any human being.

So, you see, I do think there are ways to tell yourself “truths” that are much more empowering (and less stress-producing) than other possible ways of viewing what “is true.”

In my next two posts in this series, I’m going to dig a little deeper into what it takes to be very skilled at recognizing and telling the truth, as best we can given our biological limitations.

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{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

igor Griffiths September 3, 2012 at 9:29 AM

Well Hello Doc
Interesting post, truth of course can be colored by our sense perceptions, social conditioning and background knowledge.

The one thing we need for personal truth is to stop filtering the warnings we receive with ‘it’ll be fine’ responses.

Be honest our your situation and take this truth onboard and make true plans to respond to it.


Doc Orman, M.D. September 3, 2012 at 3:40 PM

igor, thanks for your comments. I think background knowledge is key. This can help us connect with certain “truths” when our sense perceptions, social conditioning, etc. might be leading us astray.


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