The Inner Game Of Fear—Part 3

by Doc Orman, M.D.

Tthe inner game of fear part 3his week, in honor of Halloween, I’ve been focusing on the common human emotion of fear. 

In my first post this week, I showed how fear is always a future-based emotion.  This means it is an internal reaction to things which haven’t quite happened yet, but which we strongly believe are likely to occur.

Then, in my second post, I highlighted the fact that fear doesn’t come from what’s going on outside of us.  Rather, it always arises from triggered “internal realities” which become activated within our bodies.  Since these internal realities occur deep within us, they are often very difficult for us to see.  Also, because the rapid sequence of triggering events…giving rise to internal realities…which then give rise to our emotions…happens so fast that we often miss the role that our internal realities prominently play.

False “Internal Realities” Give Rise To Many Of Our Fears

If you recall the example from my previous post of experiencing fear from seeing a spider on your pillow at bedtime, I showed you how a toy (plastic) spider can elicit the same instantaneous fear response as an actual, real live spider. Thus, your fear response in this example was not only caused by an “internal reality” that got triggered within you, but it was also cause by a “false internal reality.”

In other words, you misidentified a toy spider as a real one, and it was this mistaken internal reality that actually gave rise to your fearful emotion.

Now, you might be thinking “big deal…how often do I run into a plastic spider on my pillow at night?”  And you’d be right that this is a very uncommon occurrence. But how often do you suppose your major emotional reactions (of all kinds) are being produced by false internal realities that otherwise get triggered within you?

You’d be surprised to find out how frequently this occurs!

It’s a very safe bet that more than 50% of your strong negative emotional reactions, such as fear, anger, guilt, frustration, etc., are also being produced by false internal realities.

Only your body believes that these internal realities aren’t false at all.  Your body believes they are absolutely true…when in fact they are not!

Our Other Emotions Also Often Come From False Internal Realities

With the emotion of fear, we get the best and clearest example of how this general emotion-generating process works.  For instance:

  • How many times have you been afraid of something, only what you were afraid of happening never occurred?
  • How many times have you had a specific fear, only to discover later on that it was based on false information that was given to you by others?
  • How many times have you had a specific fear, only to discover that it was based on a false assumption you made or a false conclusion you had drawn?

You see, we have mountains of evidence, from our own personal experiences in life, that many of our strong fearful emotions were entirely based upon mistaken internal beliefs or assumptions.  This is why I titled all three of my blog posts this week “The Inner Game Of Fear.”  Because it truly is an inside game.  And it’s one we often don’t see being played out, over and over again, not just with fear, but with all of our emotions.

This is why fear is such a great emotion to explore.  Because it provides us with a really cool window into how all of our other emotions are generated

Often, we don’t get the clearly visible feedback that the internal realities driving our other emotions, such as anger, guilt, frustration, sadness, etc., are also being driven by false internal realities (unless we go looking for this data).  But you can be sure that much of the time (not always) there are similar mistakes or false ideas that are driving these common emotions as well.

This awareness presents us with an incredible new window of opportunity. Because if you can discover what some of these false internal realities are…you now have the keys to amazing stress relief.  Check it out, and you’ll see for yourself just how well this works.

Even More Quotes About Fear

Here is the final group of my favorite quotes about fear, which I found at:

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” ― Plato

“A man that flies from his fear may find that he has only taken a short cut to meet it.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Children of Húrin

“There are two kinds of fears: rational and irrational- or in simpler terms, fears that make sense and fears that don’t.” ― Lemony Snicket

“I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unnerving ease. It begins in your mind, always … so you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don’t, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you.” ― Yann Martel, Life of Pi

 “All that ever holds somebody back, I think, is fear. For a minute I had fear. [Then] I went into the [dressing] room and shot my fear in the face…” ― Lady Gaga

 “Fear can only grow in darkness. Once you face fear with light, you win.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Of all the liars in the world, sometimes the worst are our own fears.” ― Rudyard Kipling, The Collected Works

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